Comments on: Divorce: Can’t We All Just Get Along!? http://www.thoughtsstorieslife.com/2011/08/divorce-cant-we-all-just-get-along/ A Chick on a Mission... to PROVE Anything is possible for ANYONE. Mon, 26 Apr 2021 07:27:23 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=5.1.6 By: Anonymous http://www.thoughtsstorieslife.com/2011/08/divorce-cant-we-all-just-get-along/#comment-230 Mon, 22 Aug 2011 17:36:42 +0000 http://www.thoughtsstorieslife.com/2011/08/divorce-cant-we-all-just-get-along.html#comment-230 I am a father of 5 and divorcesd a few months The divorce lasted over 2 years with severs years of reconciliation The marriage lasted 23 with most of it being very miserable on my part as well as unhappy for her I stayed married and was faithful even though there wasn’t intimacy for a great many years I wanted out after I went through what I felt was a serious health challenge and she wasn’t there to even take me to the doctor

I felt prior to the divorce I was an extrodinary father it now seems revisionary with mom telling them one thing and now they often refuse my calls and my affections

I pray in time they will lose their anger The youngest ( 2 teens) my daughterr Has told me repeatedly that I abandoned them my son has come around yet my daughter holds deep anger towards me and refuses my help other than money

Her words are identical to her mothers words which she lives with full time I see her every other weekend yet the visits are often cut short by her bursts of anger and outbursts

I express to her in written and in person how much I love her I try to come faithfully but my health and her anger cut vists short

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.thoughtsstorieslife.com/2011/08/divorce-cant-we-all-just-get-along/#comment-220 Sat, 20 Aug 2011 04:28:47 +0000 http://www.thoughtsstorieslife.com/2011/08/divorce-cant-we-all-just-get-along.html#comment-220 At least your kids are still interested in their dad. When my folks divorced my siblings and I had a less than cordial relationship with our dad. He would call and we would just set the phone down and let him speak to the air as we went off and did other things… Over time I realized (a very little bit at a time) that he wasn’t a bad person and he didn’t deserve being treated that way. Unfortunately by the time I fully realized the truth (as a freshman in college) I did not attempted to reconcile with him soon enough. A year and a half or so later he was in a car accident. He was resuscitated on the scene but was in a coma for 13yrs until he finally passed in 2008. I lost my chance to ask for his forgiveness.

I realize this doesn’t make you feel more appreciated by your kids, but I do hope your kids never feel about their dad as me and my siblings once felt about our dad.

]]> By: carrieann34 http://www.thoughtsstorieslife.com/2011/08/divorce-cant-we-all-just-get-along/#comment-212 Thu, 18 Aug 2011 13:19:40 +0000 http://www.thoughtsstorieslife.com/2011/08/divorce-cant-we-all-just-get-along.html#comment-212 I feel the same. I work my tail off, get meals, get him to school, keep him clothed, I get him to all games and practices, and it goes unappreciated. But, I have learned that I was not appreciating it. I was constantly bitter about it. I had to change my thought pattern! As far as his father, I think my son puts his dad on a pedastool hoping for his love and approval. A hard lesson for me to learn was…this was my child’s lesson not mine. My lesson in this Is how not to give my power away to the controlling alcoholic this man is, he brings a fear in me like I have never experienced, and not sure why. So, in the mean time, I am thankful that I am the one who gets to do all these things with my son and participate in his life! Carrie

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